Updated: Feb 5

There are people around you who may not be able to handle the ordeal you share with them, so be mindful of expectations you may have towards them for how you expect them to handle what you share with them. Some people just don’t have the capacity to handle what you share with them and that’s okay, they aren’t professionals.

But peer support to get through it with people who have experienced similar, can be just as helpful as seeking professional support too.

There are effects of trauma and it can show up differently for different people depending on what they experienced such as how your body will respond to the trauma and mental health effects of the trauma. Effects on the body can include stress, body releases of hormones cortisol and adrenaline for the body’s automatic way of preparing to respond to danger, you have no control over. As well as this there can also be the long term impact on your physical health and mind.

So these can usually occur –

Freeze – feeling paralyzed or unable to move.

Flop – doing what you're told without being able to protest.

Fight – fighting, struggling or protesting

Flight – hiding or moving away.

Fawn – trying to please someone who harms you.

Some of the common effects of trauma can also include-

· Flashbacks – reliving aspects of a traumatic event or feeling as if it is happening now, which can happen whether or not you remember specific details of it.

· Panic attacks – a type of fear response. They are an exaggeration of your body's response to danger, stress or excitement.

· Dissociation – one way your mind copes with overwhelming stress. You might feel numb, spaced out, detached from your body or as though the world around you is unreal.

· Hyperarousal– feeling very anxious, on edge and unable to relax. You might be constantly looking out for threats or danger.