Let us talk about the art of "PROCESSING" in its simplest form processing our emotions and experiences that have happened to us, allow us to see how it affected us, the areas we need to work on and how to move forward in a more positive way.
In life because there is so much going on, what most do is that they go through bad/ traumatic experiences but rather than process it, feel as though if they ignore it or suppress it that it will go away. But that is furthest from the truth, when you suppress you may not have it in sight for some time, but along the journey of life things will happen and you may also get triggered, which will cause you to react in a way to something that you had not dealt with in your past. So to process something is to allow yourself the time to explore what happened and how it made you feel.
We live in a fast paced society that believes that your emotions are only positive and anything negative or bad shouldn't be explored. But that is very harmful and what I see happen a lot is that childhood hurts and experiences are what many have suppressed and not dealt with, unbeknown to them in their adulthood their patterns of behaviour and thoughts are what stems from their childhood that they have not dealt with.
So when we say to process, it is to allow yourself the gift of freedom to unlock, heal and move on to better and being better, as opposed to suppressing and living through the lenses of your past.
HOW AM I GOING TO EXPLORE THIS? AM I READY?
HOE DOES THIS MAKE ME FEEL?
WHY DO I SUPPRESS?
WHAT IS THE MAIN ISSUE?
WHO WAS INVOLVED?
AM I HARD ON MYSELF?
There is something called an auto pilot reaction and that is when someone avoids or represses their feelings, so then as mentioned before there is no effort to allow what they feel come to the surface to be dealt with and this can be very harmful and toxic to the person. It is then like a pattern of suppressing each time, but with that the longer you do this the harder it will be to deal with what the issue is.
“Consistent efforts to ignore our emotions won’t make them disappear,” says Marcum. “They’ll be waiting for us to acknowledge them at some point.
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